Bobby and Wanda Alger make their first appearance on the podcast to share what they have learned about one another and themselves over more than thirty years together in leadership and ministry. Listen as they describe how their marriage has thrived despite having different gifts and how to honor what is on your partner’s heart.

Together, Bobby and Wanda Alger attended Oral Roberts University in Tulsa, Oklahoma, where Wanda earned a master’s in church music and Bobby completed his master of divinity degree. In 1998, the Algers planted Crossroads Community Church in Winchester, Virginia, where Bobby serves as the lead pastor. Soon after, in 2000, they joined the DOVE International family of churches. They have three adult children.

How to Deal with Conflict:

  1. Talk about it
  2. Pray about it
  3. Get help

Quotable Quotes:

  • “Give me who I need, not necessarily who I want.”
  • “She and God are smart enough to fix herself.”
  • “The sooner we can pray about something, the sooner we’ll solve it.”
  • “Bring the Kingdom into every sphere of culture.”
  • “Use other people’s materials until you can write your own.”
  • “Just stay in faith and you’ll break through.”


  • Romans 12
  • Partner with whatever Holy Spirit has already put inside you.
  • Be authentic, and do not compare yourself to others.
  • When looking for advice, go outside your generation. Talk with those who are older and younger than you.

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