Brian Sauder joins Larry Kreider to share how we can communicate effectively and healthily resolve conflict. Brian stresses the importance of being self-aware and understanding your part in a disagreement, how communication via technology can be hard to interpret, and to remember that everyone has different giftings, passions, and conflict styles that generate unique perspectives.
6 Steps to Resolving Conflict:
- Gain agreement that there is a problem.
- Identify the consequences upfront.
- Pray together in faith and ask for wisdom and solutions.
- Mutually agree on some actions.
- Follow up and measure progress.
- If the conflict cannot be resolved after the follow-up, seek help from an objective outside source that you both trust.
- “If we don’t have conflict, it means we’re not around people.”
- “Conflict will and does exist.”
- “Bad communication leads to conflict.”
- “Seek to understand rather than to be understood.” —Stephen Covey
- “Everyone doesn’t have to agree, and everybody’s not meant to work together.”
- “Let the Lord defend us.”
- “Tell the facts and not our story.”
- How you deal with conflict will determine how successful your ministry is and how healthy your relationships are.
- What you said and what you think you said are two different things.
- The words you use make up only 7% of your conversations.
- 55% of a conversation is non-verbal.
- Forgiveness is paramount in overcoming conflict.
- James 5:17
- James 4
- Matthew 7:3
- Proverbs 18
- Esther 4:14
- Become aware of your weaknesses and humble yourself.
- Do not compare yourself to others.
- Proverbs 26:17
- Don’t meddle and insert yourself into issues that don’t involve you.
Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
- DOVE International
- DOVE Canada
- DOVE Global Leadership & Ministry School
- Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Joseph Grenny, Kerry Patterson, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler, and Emily Gregory
- Team Profile by Bobb Biehl
- Passing the 21 Tests of Leadership by Larry Kreider
- Ask Larry
For more information about Larry Kreider, his books, daily devotionals, small group resources, or other teachings, visit larrykreider.com